Cancer Love Match
Since the moon, which shifts, creates and signifies emotion, rules Cancer, then you can always expect your dealings with Cancerians to be filled with a certain level of intense investment. This investment will always come from the qualities that are inherent to their nature, such as fertility, domesticity and that overarching maternal (even you boys) instinct. The emotionally that seems to rule over this aspect of the sun sign, manifests itself in the stomach, via stomach aches and indigestion (the emotional barometer for humans), and in their tenacity for seeing things through and making sure that good is done.
The Cancerian is likely to be saving you from something, and even though you may not feel as though you need to be saved, your Cancer lover has an uncanny ability to sniff out unhappiness or dissatisfaction. If you are the not the focus of their altruistic imperialism then some other ’cause’ will adorn their spirit, which so thoroughly inhabits them. From the neighborhood kids, to sick animals, your Cancer partner is a hallmark card for all things nurturing or protecting. Though this can be distracting and perhaps a bit of an annoyance when every time someone needs change or a cat looks hungry, or even a distressed phone call from a friend, can interrupt an entire evening’s plans, it is important to remember that this is how Cancer deals with their emotional depth. Helping people or causes can serve to assuage the level of emotional distress that a Cancer feels at other’s pain. By allowing them the space to do what feels natural will mean that they take it out on you less.
The thin shell that is supposed to protect Cancer from external stimulus doesn’t always do such a great job, and thus their softer interior is often disturbed. It is for this reason that in matters of the heart you may never even see the Cancer sneak up on you. Because they, more than anyone else, are well aware of their propensity for emotionally, your Cancer lover may come from all directions but straight ahead. This is a protective measure, since head on confrontation and/or rejection is something that they will not deal with easily. Expect this behavior and it is much less disconcerting. Make sure to be ready and willing to interpret requests or suggestions that will not be completely obvious. Challenge yourself to think outside your normal emotional or intuitive parameters.
This will also allow you to know and understand that the Cancer in your life has had a lot of stress and perhaps a few whiskey-cigarettes-tears nights. This has driven a large amount of the empathy development in their lives, and they usually feel (and are mostly right) that this troubled past has them to believe that they know what others are going through during times of trouble. They can fix things though, oh how they can fix things. Cancer is a handyman and as a result a nice home usually follows a Cancer around, and provides great tools for good fathering or mothering. So if you are ready for a domestic life, keep that Crab in your life.
One of the drawbacks of having such a thin shell is that it can sometimes make you seem withdrawn and uncaring. This is especially true when it comes to those members of the Cancer crew that have been hurt particularly badly in the past. Their reluctance to express themselves with their feelings is simply a defense mechanism. An important thing to remember is that allowing your Crab lover to withdraw and not be their usual empathic self-will help them charge their batteries after too much stress.
Avoid early marriage with Cancers, since it usually is the result of their over active nesting impulse. This can often result in a dramatic realization that they are not equipped to deal with the harsh demands of married life, and leads to high divorce rates. Important hint: Cancers may keep nostalgic things around them, picture albums, letters etc. Many times this can contain records of old lovers. It is important to remember that Cancers can feel very unsure of the future, and can be more comfortable leaving a piece of themselves in the past, for security’s sake. It is a good thing to keep remembering that you are the one that they are with, and not vice-versa.
Because of this penchant for living in the past, the Cancer that you are in a relationship with may have a problem remembering all the unkind or thoughtless things that he/she has done, but trust me, they have no problem remembering all the uncaring things that you have done. This selectivity can be very hurtful, and many times untrue. Encourage your lover to live in the present and resist the urge to only focus on the past.
Best Match for Cancer
As a star sign Cancer, ruled by the element of Water, your safest bet is probably one of the other two Water signs, i.e. SCORPIO or PISCES. The favorable 120° – or 4 signs – spacing between Zodiac signs in the same element makes for an especially harmonious relationship and a level of compatibility well above the norm.
Both Scorpio and Pisces are good compatibility matches for Cancer since they share Cancer’s high level of sensitivity and similarly intuitive approach to life. However, Pisces probably just beats Scorpio as the better compatibility choice for Cancer. Because Pisces has the same emotional vulnerabilities as Cancer, it finds it relatively easier to sympathize with the Crab’s mood swings than the strong-willed, self-controlled Scorpion.
Really excellent too, in terms of their ability to harmonize with sensitive Cancer, while also helping it to keep its feet on the ground, are the practical Earth signs TAURUS and VIRGO, spaced by 60° – or next but one – from Cancer. Many believe this kind of Water-Earth combination is actually the ideal – and surely it’s no coincidence that a high proportion of successful compatibility matches are between people with birthdays two Zodiac signs apart.
So what about another CANCER as a good compatibility match? On the plus side, you’ll definitely know what makes them tick, since they embody so many aspects of yourself. Especially with a Cancer of the opposite sex, the chances are you’ll be strongly attracted to their best Cancerian qualities – like their protectiveness and kind-heartedness. But because we don’t tend to like our bad points when we see them reflected in somebody else, there will also be things about Cancer people – most likely their over-sensitivity and moodiness – that you’ll positively hate! If so, better take a long hard look at yourself in the mirror!
Worst Match for Cancer
The truth is, Cancer, your ideal compatibility match will rarely simply be a clone of yourself (how boring would that be!). But neither, for that matter, should their star sign be too astrologically antagonistic to your own. For this reason, you should be cautious – in the absence of redeeming features – about folk born under the star signs of ARIES. Because Aries is at a challenging 90° angle (or 3 sign spacing) from Cancer, the differences between you may be so vast, the chances are these people will be too incompatible with you – and just too much hard work!
Of all the star signs, Aries probably qualifies as the worst possible compatibility match for Cancer. Due to their extreme sensitivity and deep need for emotional and domestic security, Cancerians may find it harder than just about anyone else to cope with Aries’ highly combative, freedom-seeking style.
There may also be lesser compatibility challenges with the signs spaced at 150° (or 5 signs) from Cancer, i.e. SAGITTARIUS and AQUARIUS. Traditionally considered to be ‘awkward’, and involving signs in conflicting elements, these 150° relationships probably won’t be your first choice, but then neither should they be your last. So don’t make the mistake of writing them off as unsuitable – in some cases a love match could work out fine!